know yourself before birth · a 14-day birth preparation
no one births your baby but you.
do you know who's going to show up in labor? let's get familiar with her.
birth and the preparation for it are the ultimate revealers. you're about to meet your threshold. over 14 days, we move past the mental and into the intuitive preparation, so you walk into birth knowing yourself, your fears, your vision, and keep your integrity with every decision you'll face.
this is my 14-day prep to BIRTH, birthed from my own preparation process, going into the DEPTHS before my second baby's arrival. i've included prompts and practices, plus a private podcast with my husband for you to listen to with your partner. it's a full recipe for the SIMPLE, SPIRITUAL, EMOTIONAL prep required for a natural birth at home (unassisted if you desire).
most birth prep happens out here.
the registry, the car seat, the crib, the snoo, the right diapers. the other type of prep is the "tools": someone showing you their way of breathing, moving, positioning, speaking to your doctor. none of that goes INSIDE and pulls out more of who you are, more of what you've already successfully created in your life, and takes into account your family field.
the birth you have is ULTIMATELY decided by how you relate to yourself, GOD, and authority: your providers, your partner, your parents. think childhood wounds surfacing LOUD in between the rolling of contractions, because that's genuinely what will happen if what you hold subconsciously isn't brought up and out.
outsourced birth prep → knowing yourself before birth
preparing with products, believing more stuff means more ease
five simple things, and a body that knows what to do by design
choosing a home or free birth to get away from the hospital
choosing toward something: a rebel with a cause
keeping your vision quiet so you can't fail
saying it out loud, in front of witnesses
handing out roles: the provider who saves you, the partner you blame
responsibility, not blame: no one births your baby but you
deciding from your head, too early
deciding from instinct, so the right people show up
believing sovereignty means doing it alone
a village that knows what you desire and holds you to it
bracing against the intensity
moving toward it, and softening there
hi, i'm molly. my life is the living fruit of the experiences i've had clinically and personally as a mother.
for 5 years, i had a chiropractic practice (pre-babies), mostly seeing pregnant and postpartum families. we call it chiropractic math: one pregnant mom equals three lifetime clients! throughout that time, i became very close with multiple families as i supported them through their pregnancy and breastfeeding journeys, and through the birth process for some of them. i also trained as an apprentice midwife and attended more than 30 births during my time as a practitioner. over and over, mothers cried on my table as they told me their birth stories.
when i was preparing for my own birth, i went looking for empowering stories in my lineage, and i didn't find much. what i did hear felt like more of what i knew i didn't want. yet out of my mom's four children, i was the only one born with no medical intervention or medication, and i totally took that.
in preparation for my first birth, i also stopped attending home births in the community where i was supporting women, primarily because all i was seeing was managed births. what i knew i wanted was something completely physiologic and self-directed.
in 2021, after spending two years studying with a midwife virtually, i released a birth guide. then i had my son, and i took the guide down. it was a head-level information guide, and it wasn't actually what i used in my own birthing process. birth is not done with the conscious mind. birth is done with the body, with your heart, and with the field your family creates.
my son's labor of "intensity" lasted over 24 hours. at my edge, the fear i'd never named came up: what if i fail? it wasn't the fear i'd prepared for. my daughter's birth was about four blissFULL hours. i moved TOWARD every contraction and softened there. both of my children were born in our homes, my son on the bed in the mid-day light like the leo he is and my daughter on the dark, cool, bathroom floor with my husband as the first hands they felt, medically unassisted.
it took me two births to learn what's in this short offering. know yourself before birth is the preparation i genuinely wish i'd had the first time. it's really all i would have needed. i've attached both of my birth videos as a part of this course because witnessing birth really feels like an opportunity dropped out for women in today's world. and when i say birth, i'm referring to PHYSIOLOGIC, medically unassisted and undisturbed kind of birth. the definition of NATURAL.
it isn't about copying my births or anyone else's you've seen on instagram (praise the accounts like motherbirther). it's about excavating your own process, so you meet your fears, your vision, and your God before labor asks you to. BECAUSE IT WILL.
you don't have to go through a hard birth first to learn these lessons.
30+ births attended · 5 years caring for pregnant and postpartum families · 2 births at home, medically unassisted
14 days. a whole lot of excavation. one birth that's yours.
week one: pulling out what's inside
birth is a revealer. this week we illuminate where you've handed your authority away, what your inner knowing has already shown you, and the fear underneath the fear.
day 1, pulling out what's inside: intentions & visioning
day 2, birth as a revealer: how you birth is how you birth everything else
day 3, choosing or rebelling?: the 50-words exercise & the need shaping your prep
day 4, your inner knowing has a track record: the times you followed it & the times you overrode it
day 5, speak your vision: write your birth through all five senses (and a sixth)
day 6, responsibility, not blame: what you actually have dominion over
day 7, your core fear: where it would try to take over in birth
week two: integrating and preparing
we move from the mental into the intuitive and the practical: your partner, your body, your space, and your village.
day 8, why births go off course: the drama triangle of victim, persecutor, and rescuer
day 9, your partner at the edge: what you want from him that's yours to build first
day 10, move toward the intensity: what i wish i knew for my first birth
day 11, hearing your inner knowing: your 3 days of quiet
day 12, simple prep: the only 5 things i actually needed, and my birth space list
day 13, your village and the first weeks: your support agreements, and the postpartum crash nobody talks about
day 14, integration: your 50 words again, and what changed
everything included
14 days of concepts, stories, and practices
windows into authority, a private podcast: 11 episodes with me and sam, each paired with a day of the course
my birth space and postpartum lists, with links to what i actually used (it's so unbelievably simple!!!)
the resources i trust: books, movement, and teachers
bonus: a year of my paid substack ($7/month, an $84 value)
bonus: my couples' birth prep playbook
bonus: my birth spotify playlist
"she helped my body and my heart get ready for birth."
molly is such a blessing in my family's life. i began working with her when i was 30 weeks with my third.
molly is deeply in tune with mind, body, and spirit. she brings together real education and a strong intuition, and you feel both in the way she shares information. she helped my body and my heart get ready for birth, and i'll never be able to thank her enough for that.
the changes i felt during and after our time together were unlike anything i'd experienced before.
if you're pregnant, preparing for birth, or caring for a new baby, i can't recommend molly enough.
— melanie w.
know yourself before birth
$79
14-day course: week one, pulling out what's inside, and week two, integrating and preparing
windows into authority private podcast, 11 episodes
birth space and postpartum lists with links
support agreement templates
bonus: a year of my paid substack ($84 value)
bonus: couples' birth prep playbook
bonus: my birth playlist on spotify
questions
do i have to be planning a free birth?
no, you definitely do not have to be planning a free birth. this course is about knowing yourself and how you relate to authority. it will help you understand what is psychologically driving you before you cross the threshold, or your water breaks.
we're all in relationship to people who will support us, whether in pregnancy, toward the end of pregnancy, in the birth itself, or in the postpartum window. being very clear on what you desire and why helps you communicate what you need from the support around you, so you don't go against your instinct in the name of the support you've asked for or hired in.
i've already had a baby. is this for me?
yes. some of the exercises have specific questions and prompts for women who have already given birth. they help you pull out the themes and reflect on the decisions made in previous births, so those aren't recreated in your next one.
is my partner involved?
he's welcome. day 9 is about your partner at the edge, and the private podcast is recorded with sam, so you'll hear the dad's side too. we designed the podcast to be listened to together, at least for some of the episodes, because for us, being on the same wavelength was the biggest preparation for the medically unassisted part of the birth. your partner will not birth your baby for you. it is all an inside job, and we dive into that in the private podcast episodes.
how much time does it take?
this is a 10-minute-a-day experience. it's enough to require action, because it asks you to uncover belief systems and shift your identity, but not so much that it's fully consuming. there's a lot happening in pregnancy, and in our world, so these are accessible, titrated bits. day 11 does ask you to plan 3 days of quiet, with 4+ hours outside and no tech.
how is it delivered?
the course is dripped out day by day for 14 days in a row. each day is emailed to you and also lives inside your course platform, so you can go back and revisit it. the private podcast lives on substack.
when should i start?
if i had it my way, women would go through this twice in pregnancy: once in the second trimester and once toward the end. the private podcast can be listened to any time in pregnancy, or in your fertility window as you prepare for pregnancy and birth. the calls to action and exercises will serve you best around the third trimester.
is this medical advice?
no. this is for education and entertainment purposes only. i am not your medical provider, and i'm not speaking from a licensure perspective on any of this. i'm sharing my personal experience in birth and what i've learned walking with women. it's here to help you hear your own knowing, not to replace the care you choose.
birth is revealing.
it is one massive window into how you relate to authority, your edge, and ultimately God. you can wait for labor to show you, or you can meet yourself now. fourteen days to come back to your own knowing, so you walk into birth clear on who you are and what you desire.